Common sense unless you are a homophobe or some other form of HATER who is trying to control other people's lives. Well guess what!? It isn't your life, your body, your drama so stop trying to add excitement to your life by getting all riled in hate speech and actions. AND YES it is hate speech when you decide to hold someone down instead of lifting them up. We were not put on this earth to see through people but to see them through. Remember the fears associated with change only mean that you are going through a growing pain and must work through the insecurities that prevent you from acceptance and moving on. There is no sanctity in marriage when you can make it official while drunk and for less than 100 dollars and 10 minutes. While getting a divorce can take months or years and cost thousands. Who is really ruining the sanctity in this situation?