Why are the private conversations of two people in an intimate relationship any of our business? They weren’t in any way threatening. They were just two people commenting on their work. If two teachers text and complain that the administrator was doing something they didn’t like that doesn’t make them insubordinate. If two stock brokers text each other to complain about their boss it doesn’t make them a bad employee. This is just misdirection to try to hide a lot of dark and evil deeds.